Dearest of all- Future Me~

Dearest 45 & half-year old Cretee,

Haha, I bet you are having a nervous breakdown aren’t you, old woman? Harharhar, sorry I had to get it out of my system and mentally prepare you too. Brace yourself darling. 

You and by that I mean ‘me/we’ know why I am writing you a letter for the age 45 & half. Why not 30,35,40,45,50… you get the drift, right? Because we both know our dreaded age when we may feel officially old is 45.So, I just wanted to help you get through this transition, if I may. I know you turned 45 months ago, it isn’t that I forgot the birthday ( how can I?), I just didn’t want to come and offer my help  when you would be at your most sensitive state and risk getting my head bite off (we both know your  temper), clever aren’t I ?

So, how has life been so far? Hope it has been very kind. Are you married? Are you single? What are you now? I am dying to know here. Although you never thought married life will work for you, you were a believer of love after all. Do you have kids now?  Because although you love babies, until now at age 22, you still have extreme phobia of child-birth. So please tell me, you have got over your fear & now have two lovely kids with your very handsome partner who has been committed to you for years (because you still don’t have a been-in-a-relation-for-more-than-a-year badge to boost about). If you don’t have biological kids then have you adopted? You have always wanted to adopt a child,haven’t you? 

If you have done neither of the things, then you must be single. Not that I would mind or come to think of it, you would either. I know how much you enjoy your me-time,books,internet,tea etc very much.Whether you are in a relation or single, I do hope to dear god that you are happy with your life and yourself. Because your motto was never to reach the moon or land among the stars, or to have fame or fortune. All these years, all you have ever wanted for your family,your loved ones and yourself was to have inner peace and satisfaction in theirs and your life.In the present, you believe that’s the way to live your life. So if you feel something is not right, then find what is bothering you and deal with it. Always a dealer (not the drugs kind, mind you), don’t moan.

Ok, lets stop the serious talks for now. Lets talk about the physical aspects of being 45. I hope by now you have collected enough money to fix your crowded teeth (you & I both know,people were just being kind when they said our crooked smile looked nice) & got the laser treatment for the eyes (blind as a bat you are at the moment without your glasses). I also hope and pray that our frizzy hair problem has magically disappeared by now & has been replaced by lustrous shiny hair that can be styled according to your will. Oh future happy days, I hope!

Now that the hair part is done, we now need to have a serious talk about our body. I know, our body is healthy (thank god) & on the curvy side (which we like most of the time & know how to work it) but honey, I hope you are still not living a deluded life-like your 22-year-old self. Please, please,please work on your tummy because you can’t forever  pretend that you  have a flat one just because you suck the air in and hold your breath when you check on the mirror and tone your legs too. I want to imagine my future self looking hot in a  dress instead of looking like a sumo-wrestler (no offence  to all the sumo-wrestlers out there) which sadly I think you do at the moment. 

Which gets me to other two things I hope you have learned to do by now. First one, running because at the moment you can’t run to save your life. Which leads me to number two, learned to swim. Again, you never know when you might have to swim and cross an ocean to save yourself. I know, we all die one day but I don’t want to see ‘reason of death- Poor soul never knew how to swim’ stamped on our death certificate. Doesn’t look good, does it?

I also hope you have travelled to all the places you wanted to go and still are going to few more. Also, oh! I forgot to ask about your career. What are you doing for living? You have never been a ‘career girl’. I don’t mind as long as you have a job you love to do and can afford  your living. Although it was never a case of career development, I do hope you have got your psychology degree by now because that was what you were most interested in and have used your understanding and knowledge for good use.

I am afraid, I must say goodbye now but here is a parting reminder to you from your 22-year old self. Always remember, you are not a girl who knows what she want to be in the future, you are not sure, you never were but that doesn’t matter because you know what you want from today, you know what your main priorities are, you know your present self and you know so much more. So don’t worry about turning 45 or being old, I know you will just breeze through it. I just hope and wish that you are enjoying your life and your family. I know you have so much more love to offer but darling you need to learn how to express it more ( I promise you won’t be called a crybaby). Also please for the love of god, learn to forgive and forget because in the long run all those planning’s to take revenge on all your haters are going to give you nothing but wrinkles. You don’t want that now, do you? 

Until then

Your inner satisfaction wanting, most of the time sure of herself but sometimes confused 22-year old self

Cretee

P.s: keep me handy, for times when you are in a rut and need a reminder of who you really are and where your true happiness lies. 

P.p.s: Happy New Year-2012  to all my lovely readers!!

Reasons why it sometime sucks big time to be a Nepalese~

1. 
   Introducing myself to someone not Nepalese. Here is how the conversation usually goes.
   Me:Hi! I am Cretee.
   Sam: Hi, nice to meet you, I am Sam. Where are you from?
   Me: I am from Nepal. (Sam-confused looking, probably thinking Nepal? What is Nepal? Is it a foreign food?)
   Me: Hmm, have you heard of Nepal?
   Sam: Sorry, never heard of it.
   Me: Do you know India and China?
   Sam: Yeah Of course I know those countries. Taj Mahal and Great wall yeah yeah.
   Me: Well Nepal is right in between those two countries.
   Sam: hmm….
   Me: Oh I got it, do you know Mt.Everest and Buddha?
   Sam: Of course!!! It’s the highest mountain in the world and who doesn’t know Buddha!!
   Me:Yeah well, Mt Everest is in Nepal and Buddha was born in Nepal so yeah….
   Sam: Oh! …… (awkward) 
2. Another typical conversation.
   Me: Hi I am Cretee, nice to meet you.
   Sam: Hey, I am Sam, Nice to meet you too. So tell me, where are you from?
   Me: Well can you guess? (I know, I shouldn’t have said that…. I regret it every time) 😦
   Sam: Well, Are you Chinese?
   Me: No…
   Sam: Oh wait, Japanese!
   Me: No.., try again
   Sam: Korean?
   Me: ( light of hope going further and further away) Come on you can do better than that. 😦
   Sam: Mongolian?
   (after Sam naming every name under the sun & still somehow managing to miss it)
   Me: (giving up) I am from Nepal!
   Sam: Hmmm…. 
3. This rarely happens but happens it does.
   Me: Hi!
   Sam: Hey… (looks doubtfully at me)
   *pause*(says this slowly but in a louder voice)
   Sam: I AM SAM… DO YOU SPEAK ENGLISH? CAN YOU UNDERSTAND ME?
   Me: …….Understand this you moron!!! (fist punch right on his nose)
   Of course I don’t do that; I would never do it even though sometimes I wish I could. But I am not a kid, nor do I have a hearing problem. I might not speak with your accent but I do understand and speak English, you know. 
4. For your information I am 22 this year. So here is another reason for you.
   Knock on the door from the delivery man.
   Delivery man to me: Hi there, I have a package here for you. But before that I need a signature, is your mum or dad home?
   Me: hmm…. actually I am 22, an adult so I can sign it for you.
   Delivery man: *look of horror in his face* I am so sorry! Can you sign here please? Thanks, bye.
   (Runs as fast as he can) 
5. I know I am not the only one to deal with this situation but still this count as a reason why it sucks.
   We all have to fill lots of forms and applications in our lifetime, for e.g.: student loan, provisional license, visa application. So, there is always this question that gets on my nerve. For e.g.:
   Which ethnic background do you belong to?Please tick that apply to you.
   So there are loads of option, some of them includes

i) Indian, British Indian
ii) Bangladeshi
iii) Pakistani 

But what do I have to fill? Other Asian backgrounds. That’s what. Why I think this reason is valid? Because all the countries mentioned above are Nepal’s neighbouring countries but why is Nepal missed? Do I not belong to a country? Is my country not a country? Why am I just an “other”? How would you feel if you have to tick that box every single time? Sucks right :)?…… No? 😦

Well, Pardon me. I will just go and sit at that corner over there. You can just ignore me or better yet you just go away while I reflect upon my deepest thoughts and feelings. Off you go,darling~

Until the next one

Cretee

P.S: This  is not a hate/insult post nor does this mean I am anti-Nepal or *gasp* a racist. This post is inspired by my experiences and is meant to be insightful and humorous. So please do enjoy. At least, try to.Will you? Pinky swear? 

Separation Vs The 360° turn~

Any lonely hearts out there during this warm,fuzzy Christmas time? Don’t worry, you are not alone. Once I read an article on Cosmo ( it is never wrong) 😉 that we are more lonely than ever even with all the thousand friend lists we boost about on Facebook,hi5 or followers in twitter because when real difficult situation happens, out of all those “friends” only few will have our back. This is the reality and we know it. I know it doesn’t sound very good or goes with the Christmas spirit but fret not because I have just found the perfect piece of nugget to cheer you up :).

Few weeks ago I was reading my psychology book *shock* when I saw the title ‘Six degrees of Separations’. It was an experiment done by Milgram (a very famous psychologist) who tested the ‘it’s a small world’” hypothesis. In the experiment, some people from Kansas were asked to send packages to a stranger in Massachusetts. The stranger’s name, occupation, and roughly where they lived were told to the senders. 

Then the senders were told to send the package to someone they knew on a first-named basis, who the sender thought was most likely,out of all their friends to know the receiver personally. The person would do the same, and so on, until the package was personally delivered to the receiver. Although most of the packages didn’t make it but the ones that did were able to get there in around six hops.

This led to the very famous phrase ‘six degrees of separation’, which suggests that any two people in the world can be connected by an average of six acquaintances.When I read about it, I was absolutely amazed, aren’t you?  I know we have friends,family, relatives  but  truth is there are times when we all feel lonely even with familiar faces around so isn’t it amazing to know and realize that you can connect to anyone whoever it is, in this whole wide world where billions of people live? So all this time, it has been a small world after all!

So if you still haven’t caught the holiday spirits, cheer up because now you know that you can connect to anyone you wish to, it is just 6 tiny hops away. Miracle-Absolute Miracle I say~

Happy Holidays Peeps!!

Until then 🙂

Cretee

Source: The Open University (2010) Discovering Psychology,Milton Keynes, The Open University.